Looking for someone to make us feel loved or to deaden our emotional pain or to fill the hole in our soul is not the real solution.
One night as a dad was tucking his little boy into bed, the little guy said, 'Don't go dad..........I don't want to be alone in the dark.' The dad comforted his son with the words, 'You're not alone son...........God is with you and will never leave you.' "But dad', the son entreated, 'Please stay! I need God with 'skin on'!'
Dad was right! God IS always with us and will never leave us. (Hebrews 13:5) But the little boy was right too. Sometimes we just need 'God with skin on'. We all want to be loved and to know we are significant to someone else. And I trust you have found those people - if not in a spouse or a 'bestie' but first and fore-most in a Christ-centered church. They may even have a Celebrate Recovery group where you will most definitely find that love!
The truth is that we ARE significant to the lives we are touching at this very moment. The emptiness we all sometimes feel can be a reminder that someone in our life needs 'God with skin on' - just as we do at times. But too much self-focus fosters our feelings of loneliness, and then with desperation we look to others to fill us up.
The paradox is that we heal ourselves while offering our attention to another who, by God's design, is on our path today. Loving someone today will heal two wounds, ours and theirs!